I think the world of Ann Sieg and Mike Dillard both.  I’m still waiting on either one of them to make me rich.

This is something I saw in a recent post on a thread on BetterNetworkers.com. The poster was making a bit of a character reference for them both, but this is not why I mention it.

No, what caught my attention was the attitude I imagine is behind this statement…

Like many people, over the years I have invested in various courses and systems from a number of the well-known gurus.

Buying their stuff does not mean I transfer to them, along with my hard-earned cash, the responsibility for them to make me rich.

When you buy something from anybody, all you have done is contibute to them being rich – for you to get rich you have to do something with what you’ve bought, in such a way that, for you, in your situation and with your strengths, that others will feel compelled to swap what you offer for their hard-earned cash.

It’s that simple.

So what is your self-talk? What conversation do you have with yourself? Is it the conversation of the victim, or is it the conversation of the owner, taking ownership of and responsbility for, the outcomes you want?

If you’ve caught yourself thinking “Why doesn’t [insert guru name]’s system/course not work?” for example, then chances are you’re in victim mode – being in owner mode will almost certainly be more useful. So replace these kinds of questions with a more useful kind, such as…

“What can I do to take me from where I am to where I want to be, with what I’ve got available to me?”

In my own experience the “what’s available to me” element is way bigger and deeper than it first looks.

I found that by adopting the elements of the Solutions Focus approach, I usually find a more constructive way forward – and it’s usually easier than might normally be the case.

Check it out – some explanatory articles can be found at www.sfwork.com

Cheers

Martin

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